Roadsigns and Writing

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There has been a wide berth of white space here in this little corner of the internet. I can list off a number of excuses to account for my silence. But if I am honest with myself (and you), I must admit that this writing brings things out in me that I prefer to keep buried deep beneath my line of sight. Insecurities, doubt and lack of purpose wrestle with each other, trying to gain traction and halt my movement forward.

Because checking numbers and stats, followers and “likes” can make this “comfortable behind-the-scenes-girl” very uncomfortable.

I recognize the comparison game that creeps in as I watch more polished, purposeful, high profile blogs flourish and reach a broad audience. I can only imagine my words stretching that far.

We women have a special knack for comparing ourselves to each other, don’t we?

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Do you find yourself comparing your marriage? Your kids achievements? Your job progression? The scope and reach of your ministry? Facebook, social media and the blog world can shake the most self-confident person loose.

I find myself slipping down this very dangerous path, and it paralyzes me.

Then I find these words hidden in a passage of Scripture I have read a hundred times before.

I read about one whose life was meant to be lived in the shadows of one bigger and better. A life with the sole purpose of shining light on the One coming after him. “He must become greater, I must become less.” (John 3:30)

John the Baptist, the forerunner for Jesus Christ. The one who prepared the way for Jesus Christ. In his lifetime, he never performed a miracle and he watched his ministry dim as Jesus’ life and mission shone brighter.

What did John the Baptist think of his diminishing in order for Jesus’ purpose to be fulfilled? Did he fight to keep his voice heard above the rest? Did he quit when he realized all of his followers were now following Jesus?

Someone approaches John and asks him this question:

“Rabbi, that man who was with you on the other side of the Jordan-the one you testified about-well, he is baptizing, and everyone is going to Him.” (John 3:26)

Jealousy, fear of losing position and influence could have overwhelmed John.

But it didn’t.

He was secure in who Christ made Him to be and for what purpose He served.

To this John replied, “A man can receive only what is given him from heaven.” (John 3:27)

What platform has the Lord given you to point others to Him?

It may be highly visible and attract hundreds or even thousands. But it also may be one or two little ones at your feet, smearing peanut butter on your pant leg. Your workplace? Neighbors? You child’s teacher?

It matters not the size of the platform, but only our willingness to be faithful to that which He gives us.

Is what I’m doing pointing others to the Savior of the world?

When our lives are in unison with God’s purposes, we are simply road signs pointing to our heavenly Father.

At the end of the day, what really matters most is what our heavenly Father thinks.

Numbers fluctuate, comments turn negative, and friends can sometimes “de-friend” you.

Go in search of the applause of heaven, rather than the temporary applause that this earth offers.

“We fix our eyes not on what’s seen. But on the unseen. What’s seen is temporary. What’s unseen is eternal.” (2 Corinthians 4:18)

Can we say at the end of our lives, “With what you gave me, I did my best to make you know.”

With that spoken, my prayer for each of us is to one day enter the gates of heaven and hear, “Well done, thy good and faithful servant.”

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A letter to our Teenage Daughter’s….

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I was honored when my good friend asked me to participate in her daughter’s Birthday celebration. My sweet friend would be taking her now 13 year old daughter for a weekend getaway to talk to her about life, love, faith, and all that is relevant in the life of a teenage girl. I am honored to be a part of it and pray all of our daughters would embrace this passing on of knowledge, wisdom, and insight to the next generation!

To our Teenage Daughters, 

I hope to offer you some words of wisdom that will help you on your journey through this life you call your own. Although each of our paths are different, we can learn from one  another’s mistakes and missteps. My mistakes may not be your mistakes, and my weaknesses may not be your weaknesses, but allow me to share what I wish I knew at 13.

First and foremost, understand who you are. You are not only your parent’s daughter, you are a Child of the One True God. He has ordered your steps and accounts for every day of your life. There is purpose to His ordering of your days. There is purpose in YOUR life. Ask Him to reveal that purpose, and He will be faithful to show up!!! Don’t allow the mean girls of your life to belittle you or minimize your life. His opinion is all that matters!

Do not listen to this world when they tell you your worth is in your physical beauty. Your worth is found in God. And God cares most about who you are when no one but God is looking. He looks on the heart. Only man measures worth based upon the outward appearance.

Guard your heart. Know that each time you hand over your heart to a boy, there is a possibility it will not be returned to you in one piece. There is no rush in giving away your heart. But when you do, and heart ache steals your breathe away, you have a Father in heaven who binds up our wounds and reaches down to bring beauty out of the ashes of our life.

The amazing thing about a relationship with Jesus Christ, is that He takes the broken pieces of our lives and crafts them in to something beautiful. We all fall down at times. We all make mistakes. You will make mistakes. Forgive yourself and forgive others. Our hearts break, dreams derail, and life does not always follow the path we expected. But Jesus Christ is there through it all. There is nothing you can do to separate you from the love of Jesus Christ. Believe this!!! Remember this!!!! It is a truth that will help you sleep at night.

And so there is this…..let’s talk about sex. In this life there are some things that once you give away, you can never get back. And this giving away leaves you depleted. This giving away makes it a little bit easier to give some more away. And before you realize, large chunks of you are missing and you are just a bit numb. Please listen when I say that a boy will not ask this of you if he indeed has your best interest in mind. Don’t allow anyone to minimize sex in your mind. Sex is a beautiful thing that can blossom and bloom into the most beautiful bouquet if nurtured in the right season. But if forced to bloom to quickly, it will morph in to something it was entirely not meant to be. And we parents want to be realistic and prepare for the day our children decide to take this leap toward adulthood. But can I hold you to a high standard? It is possible to wait!!! Wait for the right man, wait for the right time, wait for your wedding day! I promise you it will be so much more than you can even imagine it to be on that day.

Finally, expect BIG things from God. ASK big things of God. We are so often nearsighted and expect so little of Him. He is a BIG God….expect Him to act like one!!!

Praying you build your life on the solid rock that is Christ Jesus!

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And so I encourage you to speak truth in to the lives of your daughters (and son’s).  Share with them how God molded your life and took the shattered pieces of your life and made them into a beautiful masterpiece.

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“Listen, my son, to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.  They will be a garland to grace your head and a chain to adorn your neck. ”  Proverbs 1:8-9

“The unfolding of your words gives light;  it gives understanding to the simple.”  Psalm 119:130 

For ideas on how to start this conversation with your daughter’s and son’s, check out Generations of Virtue